Archive for May, 2010
Wedding Crisis
As I announced, our wedding is next July 2011 and I’ve already been dealing with some crisis right when I got back from my vacation. I just want to clarify everything, so this won’t ever happen again.
Not everyone knows how we want our wedding to be, so here’s a good post for you to understand how we want it and not how other people want it.
Wedding Venue & Guests
We like it simple:
Who says 300 people means grand? 300 people does not mean GRAND. It’s just a number. $30k on the venue does not mean GRAND either. We basically put $1000.00 on a table of 10 people for the food. How is that GRAND? I’d love an explanation to that.
Wedding Dress
My wedding dress:
Wedding dress is a wedding dress. Really don’t know what to say about this. Does a wedding dress need to be respected by other people? Is there even a big deal to it with other people? Does the material of the wedding dress matter to other people?
Do I need to please everyone about what I wear that simple night? You answer it.
Jeweleries
Real Jeweleries:
Definitely not necessary for me. I hardly wear my engagement ring and no I don’t need to upgrade it to a 3carot. Does jewelery make other people give me respect? Is that the meaning of jeweleries?
Bridesmaid Dresses
As in, bridesmaid dress: Which I’m not very sure about this one. Doesn’t the bride pick the dresses for the bridesmaid? Comment below to tell me that.
I guess I should really think of myself before I put other people before me. Trying to organize the dress, the hairpieces and etc. Some people are just asking for too much.
Wedding day: Wedding day is seriously a day I want to get over with. LOL Am I serious? Yes, I’m serious. Why? So I can officially make a baby the next day! I’m joking. Yes, this day cost like a fortune and there’s so much steps in a wedding that need to be followed and plan out right. It’s basically a show to give out to family and friends for them to enjoy. Not really for us.
Meaning of a wedding: It’s our love and commitment.
* Enough said? I don’t even know why I should be dealing with this nonsense to start with. It’s our wedding anyways. If it’s other peoples wedding, I won’t even have a say to it. They do whatever they like because it’s none of my business. I can give suggestions on how they should do it, but not to tell them what to do. Each person has there own limits and for you people, you just cross the line. If you think you warned somebody and know that you might offend them in anyway, than what’s the point of taking the risk? It’s like you know your going to get in trouble for what your saying, but your saying it anyways. Let me put this as an better example for you to understand.
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Me: Hey sweetie, don’t be offended or anything, I just love you, so I got to tell you this. You don’t necessarily have to agree with me.
She: Alright, tell me.
Me: I just think the way your dressing is like a slut.
She: ————- wtf?
Me: ohhh you don’t have to take it personally, it’s just my opinion. If you don’t agree to it, that’ll be fine. I’ll still support you.
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Isn’t that the same process? LOL. Just my point of view, if you can talk to someone like this, mind as well right? Kind of funny BUT I warned in the beginning right?
Anything else more?
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How to make your nails pretty in 20minutes
Who doesn’t like beautiful nails? To me, beautiful nails gives me confident. Just like applying make up to my face!
The crappy crystal nails I paid for in China! Horribly done and it cost $125RMB
Supplies you’ll need. Filer, a box of fake nails can be purchase on CharmofLove.
The after result
The left over nails.
You must be wondering. How is the quality of these nails? Are they easily to be fallen off? I am typing with these nails and when I type, I type very fast and I press very hard. This is the first time experiencing these nails. I will not know how long it will last till I find out! Do check back to see how long these nails last 
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Peaceful afternoon
What an ordinary day! I kind of love weekdays right now how I can wake up and just have a peaceful lunch and do what I need to do. I know I know. I need to look for a job like A.S.A.P, my bank account is almost left with nothing!
Anyways, my plan today was to pay the bills online, do some networking online, upload my blogs, and head out to hand out some resumes with a friend. Seems like now, the resume part got to be on hold for a bit because he doesn’t have the car. But I finished most of the things on the list! hehe.
I’m just loving the peaceful life I have right now but whenever my step-mother calls, it stresses me out. There must be a problem if she calls or at least something. But so far, when she calls, there’s absolutely no problem. PHEW. Can life get any better? Sometimes, I just wish she doesn’t call, if she doesn’t call at all. It means good news to me already.
Why do I fear dramaaaaaaaaaa? Because there’s enough. Jen does not want anything more to do with that word. Simple and peace is what I need. Easier said than done? Hopefully not!
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Home sweet home
A little update! I’ve been back for a week and 3 days already! It feels so long already. My vacation went by like a zoom.
I enjoyed the 1.5months at China and I do miss it. I hadn’t gone back since almost six to seven years already and it was great to go back with my step mother to meet her side of the family. I have to say, I learn more about her family this time around because I did take the time to spend with them. It’s like a complete new experience with them. Why? Because my father’s side of the family is just full of drama. I thought people in China are all like that. Silly me. But this time around, it’s so different. I have to admit, even if they aren’t rich, they are living a happy life. Unlike other people- all about gold digging.
Not only did I enjoy my time there, I’ve learn a lot from my relatives and feel very loved by them. They would simply treat me like a little kid. Yes I know I’m 21 and they will worry and do this and that for me. I feel guilty when people care for me. Am I weird? I mean, when I was there, my step-moms cousins’ wife will make handmade love dumplings for me. I felt so grateful. Really do. I mean, I never asked for handmade dumplings and she would go through all that trouble. I mean, it is something small, but it’ll leave a memory into my heart forever.
I feel tremendously grateful for everything. Ever since last June, my personality has changed. I learn to appreciate more, I learn to not judge a book by it’s cover and to understand others better. Why did I change to who I am today? I have to say, Michael Jackson was the one who really gave a big impact in me! I never really know who he was – I just know he was ugly. Forgive me. After his death, I went onto Youtube to watch all his interviews, documentaries and everything else. Made me change my mind completely. I felt so wrong for judging him for his looks. His heart is made of gold. No matter how much people criticize him, he still forgive and forget. I mean, he was really a wonderful person/father. He made me realize my wrongs. My judgmental side. Till that day on, he became my hero.
Anyways, so yes, I’ve been back home for a week and more. It feels great to be back again! Back into my Fiances’ arms. He’s the sweetest thing that ever happen in my life. Since I’m back, it’s time to get somethings off my mind!
- G2 insurance class lessons
- G2 Driving test lessons
- Church lessons (to be a Catholic)
- FIND A JOB! or take a course?
YIKEEEEES, gotta get cracking! It’s JUNE already!
Meaning of Marriage/Wedding
What’s the meaning of marriage to all of you? It’s the commitment and love the bride and the groom share. What ‘s the meaning of wedding? It’s to let the people around you to know, we’re officially together.
Weddings can be simple as just going to church and exchanging our vows to glam-ing it up on a cruise-ship. I just want to explain my point here that everyone’s expectation is different. To tell everyone the truth, we’re not so “WOW” about our wedding. Some people are pretty much excited and all about there wedding because it’s once a life time. But to us, it’s different, we’ve already been living together for the past year. What difference does it make after the 12hour wedding ceremony? We’re still going to be in the same house, living our lives the same and everything else the same. You might think “what is this girl thinking?It’s once a life time thing, you must glam it up?” We would rather spend this kind of money elsewhere. On our dream 3-garage house or our dream car. Yes, there’s some people that borrows money from the bank just for a wedding and after this 12hr day, they’ll be in debt for a few years. I understand that’s what they value and expect. But for us, we’re in a total different world of vales and expectations. I simply don’t expect the real gold/diamond or pearl for a glamorous wedding. Too hard to be asking for a simple wedding? My boyfriend & I don’t need to be judge or even compared with other weddings. This wedding is just a simple party for our friends and family to get together to celebrate. I could expect a lot from him, but I chose to live the simple life. WHY? Because I never had a simple life to start off with. I ask for no more DRAMA in my life. Too hard to ask for? You can simply step out of my life.
Money doesn’t fall from the sky NOR does it grow on trees. We are getting no support from anyone because we decide not to. Even if we have hundreds of thousands of dollars, doesn’t mean we need to have it glamorous. Again, some people expect it to be simple, some people expect it to be over the top. We like it HOWEVER we want it.
Why am I making a big deal when other people are criticizing and judging and even comparing? There were just TOO much drama in my life before, I cannot handle no more of these drama or stress due to my health problems. & I know I don’t need to explain this to the world, but I chose to, to make myself feel better. Let’s just put it this way “we’re scared of drama and therefore we don’t want to deal with drama”.
Hard to understand me? That’s fine with me because at the end, your not the one that’s living the rest of my life with. I don’t speak doesn’t mean I have nothing to say.
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Dream Car – Mercedes SLK
What do you guys think? This is one of the cars my boyfriend & I agree on in the future. I’m not a huge fan of cars but this baby gets me going “WOW”. This car costs about $70k and you can only drive it in the fall/spring/summer. Boo. You may ask, is this even worth it? I tell you, every person has there own values and expectations. If WE think it’s worth the money, than it’s worth it. We value and expect more than others in our living lifestyle. Is there anything wrong with it? I find it absolutely nothing wrong, but to some others. It might be a huge problem. But again, everyone is different in there own ways. Everyone has there own personality, there own thoughts, there own expectations. Can others control them? Give me your thoughts by commenting!
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Baby, your mine one day!
How to SAVE on your big weddng day!
As you all know that I’ve been gone back to China to do some wedding shopping/ business shopping and leisure time with the family! I enjoyed it a lot. There was absolutely no stress to deal with. Just plain shopping and enjoying my life. You definitely need that once in awhile I tell you!
I bought most of my wedding things there. I tell you, if you ever plan a wedding, you MUST go to Asia to get all your supplies. You save a ton. I mean, you can buy the things here, but the prices are definitely 10x the difference. In the beginning I wasn’t sure if I was really going to go to this step, but when you have 300 people coming for your wedding, that’s about $30, 000.00 on banquets already. This is the only way to save!
3 bride maid dresses / my night gown / my wedding dress / my Chinese gown
Which I got ALL of these as gifts from family and relatives <3
Hot Spring Water
This is one of the very first place I went to when I was on vacation to Guangzhou. This place is not in Guangzhou but a little small town near Guangzhou. Have you heard of the town call “Dragon Door”? Say that in Cantonese because I have no idea what the English name is for this place.
We decided to go to this Hot Spring Water place to enjoy and have some fun, while were there. They say this place have natural spring water, so we went to try it out. It was darn cheap per person because of connections there. It cost $10.00RMB per person for the full day.
The front of the Hot Spring Water Shop
Signs to show us where we are at. Can you read the Chinese? hehe
Enjoying the Hot Spring Water. The water wasn’t extremely hot. Wasn’t all that great.
In the next morning with my relatives.
The path we walk in and out of the place to the Hot Spring Water.
We spent the full day there till the next morning. They even provided breakfast for us. How awesome can that be eh?
Feeling Overwhelmed
Feeling Overwhelmed already!! This is my 3rd day back and I feel exhausted already because there’s so much things I want to do and it’s like a huge list:
- watch youtube videos
- watch tvb dramas (a lotttttt)
- read my blogging friends blogss
- upload pictures
- upload pictures of my shop stuff
- upload my blogs
- clean up the mess I have (I’ll post up picture in another post to show u the mess)
- laundry
- people to talk to
- foodieroll contract 7page to read :S
& There is more, just can’t think right now!!
JEN IS BACK & READY TO ROLL
Hey everyone!
I am back and ready to roll! I just came back from my 1.5month vacation! Sorry for the delay on updating and replying all your messages! I could not log into my blogs for some odd reason, therefore, I couldn’t upload any of my blogs 
Makes me sad, but just got to stick with it right??
Thanks for all your support and your messages, I am trying to reply to all your messages, please give me some time because it’s only my second day back and I’m still jet-lagging! Yes, HELP!!!
I uploaded some new products on charmoflove, please do check it out! More products will be uploaded when I get enough rest. Thanks for your support!!
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