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Yesterday was a very relaxing day…
I was going to do some online work before I head out shopping yesterday but nope – that did not happen because I got a bit lazy and did some beauty things instead. I got my nails done and I also got a face steam before going out. That wasted my 3-4 hours before I got ready to go out. Yes – there goes my day but I enjoyed it in a very relaxing way! Taking care of myself and my health is the number one thing I look at now. I’m not that young anymore. I never really care about my health when I was young – now it’s a different story.
When my other half came home from work – we left the house immediately and dropped off a bottle of wine to his clients house – than headed down to Yorkdale Mall – thought there would be a traffic jam and parking lot jam – but not at all – everything seems so smooth yesterday. I had to get his birthday present and yesterday was the only time to get it. Plus – I had to go get it by myself and leave it in his car without letting him know what I got him. It was hard but mission accomplished! He’ll know on his birthday and I hope he likes it *cross fingers* – nope I didn’t buy gold bullion for him – so if your guessing that – your wrong.
Anyways – after shopping we headed out for dinner – by the time we got to All Stars – it was already 10PM and I was starving! Good thing it was Wings Night. YUMM. All in all – I had a relaxing day. What about you?
Cute Christmas Decorations
Aren’t these bears cute? I had to put them together on the tree!!! Anyways – that was very random – Christmas is around the corner and I’m almost done with the Christmas presents!!! Can’t wait to put it all under the tree and when Christmas day comes – they can search and find there’s! I’ve gotten my present from my other half already – because he doesn’t like to buy something that I wouldn’t like. So – he usually asks me what I want and have in mind. He wanted to get me something from Tiffany Co – but I have a few things from there already – don’t really want anything from there. Want to know what I got from him this year? Keep following my blog to find out!
The Christmas tree is up!
Yes – get the man at work! This is the second year that we put up the tree together – usually he’s fine at helping me because he doesn’t want me to do it all by myself. Look at how hard working he is eh? We got the tree up a bit late this year – no idea why – maybe because we are all so busy that we forgot about the tree. The tree is usually up in mid-November but it’s almost mid-December. All that is left is the putting the presents under the tree. I’m only excited about wrapping the present with different wrapping papers!! What about you?
Hard at work eh?? It didn’t take us that long to put it up – but it sure did take us hours last year figuring out how to put it up. It took us nearly 20 minutes to put up the tree and the ornaments – not too bad eh? Hope next year will be faster – so I can save more time! Time is limited nowadays!! 168 hours in a week is really not enough.
His Birthday Plan
My other half’s birthday is on Christmas Eve – which I have work half the day. But I already have things planned for him – which I’m not going to expose it here for now since he doesn’t know what it is yet and I don’t want him to find out or have any clue at all.
I did get him his present already – no i didn’t buy gold bullion for him but something special. Which he would open it at the restaurant. Hope he likes it!! I’m taking him out for dinner and not telling him where it is. All he has to do is drive and listen to my instructions. Am I evil or what? I want to make this occasion special for him because he is very special to me. He’s done a lot for me – he’s loved and cared for me so much and I know he deserves it. My love will be 28 this year – he’s going to be a PAPA soon!! I can’t wait to live the rest of my life with him.
Anniversary gift for him
Love the phrase in this card 
Guess what I got him this anniversary? Our anniversary was just last Saturday – it was a really special day for us – 2 years seems like forever already and next year is our 3 years (which we will be married by than). I have to say – these two years flew by like a blink of an eye. There’s just a lot of love in us – the love we share can’t be compared. From everything I gone through this past two years – he never fails to be there for me. Never was there a discouraging word, never was there screaming or yelling in this relationship, never was there tears or frowns in this relationship, and never was there arguments. I’m very grateful – I believe he is a present from god for me. I couldn’t ask for a better man to walk this life long road with me. Not ever once he complained about a certain thing to me. Not ever once the things I do would upset him. Trust in our relationship is 100% and its the most important in a relationship.
From the bottom of my heart – I really can’t ask for a better man that would take up the responsibilities in taking care of me for the rest of my life. I love you baby I’m grateful, I’m blessed and I’m deeply in love.
Can you guess what I got him this time around?
Christmas Presents Ideas ??
It’s nearly October and I’m already thinking of Christmas presents for my family, fiance’s family and my friends already! Since I work this year – I can afford to get everyone a Christmas present now But I’m a sucker at thinking of presents. The hardest part is getting my fiance something because he’s the most pickiest person on earth. Is your hubby/boyfriend like mine too??? I don’t want to get him something that he wouldn’t like or he would go exchange. I guess when I’m home now – I just gotta concentrate on what he says – maybe that will help?? haha.
Are you planning for Christmas already? Two more months but as you know – time flies by really fast – so gotta plan ahead since I hate doing things last minute. Are you planning yet???
Anniversary
It’s almost our two years anniversary!! I need some major help from all your ladies because I want to give the best surprise to him. Yes – he’s been giving me a lot of surprises and support throughout the years and I want to do the best for him as a soon-to-be wifey. But than again – my ideas are running out. Any suggestions?? Please do comment to let me know! It will be the biggest help. I’m talking about present-wise.
Don’t worry – he doesn’t read my blog! Because he’s a dick. Joking – but because he just doesn’t? haha. Not like I read his. So do give me some suggestions!!! Thanks.
Day 1 @ New York City
Our first destination was the Woodbury Common Outlet Mall – this post takes us to our second destination. Which is New York City for half the day. We spent nearly half the day touring New York City and my soon to be hubby fell in love with New York City.
Before he met me – he had dreams of moving to Miami and start a new life there – just to explore and be independent. Which most of his friends moved away after university to different areas in the world. But of course – with many reasons, he decided to stay put. If he really decided to move – I don’t think our relationship will ever happen. Fate is what brought us together
Would we really move to NYC one day?? I don’t think so – it’s like a complete different world than Toronto for sure. But New York City?? It’s too busy for my life style. I like the peace and quiet. What about you???
But again – as he said ” it is a better opportunity.” Which is true – but we gotta think really hard if he really wants to move there. If he really wants to – I will go with him
Wetbar Night Club
People usually will ask “your getting marry next year?? & your fiance allows you to go clubbing??” Like come on – I have a life too. Getting marry doesn’t mean – I gotta stay home and be at home to cook for the husband. That’s not the definition of marriage for me. Yes – I do need to have my fun and my soon-to-be hubby does not give me any restrictions because he trust me 100%. Of course – I know when not to cross the line too. Getting marry – does not mean that I can’t go clubbing or do a certain thing – my title will be different. I can still chill with the friends I have – go out at night whenever I want. He doesn’t TRAP me at home.
When I have fun – I like to get a little crazy. I only get to be young once – enjoy it while I can!
Kodak moment is a must !!!
It was such an awesome night – but the aftermath of it sucks!! Body aches because of lack of exercise and bruises afterward. Good times Ladies & Gents
Worth Reading – Just 10 minute of your time
MARRIAGE
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.
When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.
Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed – dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
A CHRIST-CENTERED MARRIAGE IS A MARRIAGE THAT IS SURE TO LAST A LIFETIME.
So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate. Matthew 19:6.
By Stephanie Halmilton
