How does single mom do it?

Being pregnant for 9 whole months is the hardest thing I’ve gone through so far in my life. If I didn’t have the support of my hubby – I think I would of given up when it was three months. Sometimes I wonder how single mother does it. Being pregnant alone – doing things alone – making all decisions alone. It’s tough – the toughest job in life.

I gotta admit that I’m one lucky girl – I have a hubby there always listening to my nags and whines. I tend to whine a lot more than before but he’s very understanding. He understands the pain I’ll have to go through in labour. The morning sicknesses from the past couple months. Never did he got angry or annoyed with what I tell him to do for me.

My tummy is growing and growing each day and I feel like there’s a lot of things I cannot do by myself anymore. For example: I like moving furnitures around – I can’t do that for awhile. I can neal/bend down a lot. I can no longer cut my toe nails. I gotta be extra careful and not clumsy when walking now (I’m a very clumsy walker). I gotta watch what I eat (although most of the time I’m naughty and just eat whatever). And I just gotta be more alert and not be in places with a lot of crowds. Huge difference eh? I like being independent and doing things myself but now I have the hubby spoiling me and doing things for me. I’m just not quite used to this lifestyle yet.

I just wouldn’t be able to do this alone without him. I’m grateful and I count my blessings everytime I think about how blessed I am.

Planning a Baby Shower

It was quite difficult planning this baby shower because I’ve never been to a baby shower and don’t really know how it all works. But thank goodness for good friends and the internet that helped me out. I’m half done with the invitations and booked the venue. Don’t get me wrong – I love the planning part – I was just confused about some stuff. This will be another huge party for next year to celebrate our little boys’ arrival. If I get to choose – I wouldn’t chose to have it in the winter. I’m totally not a winter person!

Going to be handing out invitation cards this upcoming months! Yes – two months early and that’s the way I roll. After these invitation cards – I gotta work on the one month celebration invitations. I wanna get as much stuff done as possible in these couple months I have left that I’m free. When the baby comes out – I doubt I’ll get much sleep. It’s always nice to get things done ahead for me – so I have less worries.

For all the events I plan – hubs never really helped but all he does is pay for the bills. Hahaha – I actually like it that way that I’m in control of everything and I know what’s going on. All I need to do is tell him the date and what bills to pay. Isn’t his job easy or what?

Our first gift for our baby

We don’t know the gender of our kid yet but that doesn’t stop us from shopping right? Since Toys’ R Us is having a 30% sale on the bedding and room decorations this week – I’ve decided to pick this up for the baby’s crib. I haven’t yet gotten the crib yet but I’ll be getting the bedding first. It’s a great gift for your son or daughter because the Winnie The Pooh theme can be multisex. So I don’t really need to worry about if its a girl or a boy right? I can’t wait to get the baby room all set up and ready to go before winter arrives. We are quite excited to know about the gender too – get to plan things in advance!

Monthly pampering

I love pampering myself with facials, massages, nails and just shopping. This picture was taken a month ago – somewhere in late August. I was so sick in bed – I couldn’t care less of how my toe and finger nails or even my eyebrow looks like. It was a tough time for me. But right when I got better – I headed to the salon to get everything done. It’s just being part of a women of getting pampered right? I once asked the husband if women are high maintenance because of all the shopping, nail salon and stuff. He replied “no because it’s necessary” – I’m happy to have a understanding hubby. If its some other men – they would think it’s just wasting money. Is there even such thing as wasting money on yourself?

Reality Check

A friend’s facebook posted: “What would you do with 1 million dollars?”

My reply: Invest!

When you think about it nowadays – one million dollar isn’t much because houses nowadays cost a million unless you move up north. The area I’m living in cost over a million and it’s just crazy. Comparing to years ago – this house I’m currently living in is half the price. The house market is going a bit crazy and it scares me. Scares me to think of what the future holds for our family with surviving on one income. It’s not that I don’t want to think about it – but it’s on my mind. Giving our child the best things and education in life is a must. I guess the best thing to do right now is save as much as we can now and worry about the rest later.

What do you do when you have high expectations and you can’t lower your expectations? Work harder. Sometimes I question if the road I’m walking is right – but I gotta believe in it. It works for others and it’ll eventually work for me. As my mentor said “Rome wasn’t built in a day” – everything takes time to built up. I just feel like I’ve been thinking a lot and rushing through things lately. Gotta slow down and take it step by step.

Believe in God.

Birthday Plans

It’s mid-September already – time is flying by like a blink of an eye. I’m already thinking of my birthday plans and this time – I’m really out of ideas. I think I’ll do separate dinners again because it’s really hard communicating with a large group of people. Probably simple dinners would be nice. One thing I request from my hubby is – I want 23 candles on my birthday cake. Looks like he’ll need to get a huge cake for me eh? hehehe

Another year has gone by and I’ll be twenty three this year. I feel like being twenty-two – I’ve accomplished a lot in life just this year. A lot of happy events and wonderful friendships. I hope turning twenty-three would be the same too. Bring a new member in the family is a joy and this year – I pray and wish for a healthy baby.

Baby bump

Yepp – I’m having a baby bump already! It’s cute and adorable. My first ultrasound was last week and my other half was thrilled to see the baby. His expression was priceless and he was darn happy. Makes me feel like what I went through was so worth it. I’m just really not ready to go through the labour yet. When I think about it – it scares me to death. I’m scared of needles and pain. Let’s pray that it’ll be a easy one. My baby bump is growing and it looks like I won’t be wearing sexy camo lingerie for a long time. I’m more comfortable wearing comfy pajamas nowadays.

Baby # 2 ?

Some aunties and friends are asking if we’ll want another kid after this one. Our plan was really only having one kid because we enjoy the luxury things in life. Is it kind of selfish? You can say that – kids are stressful and demanding nowadays. Plus – knowing what I go through now in my pregnancy – I don’t think I would wanna go through it again. I puked the whole month straight. It felt like hell and I felt like I couldn’t make it through. I never had any serious sickness but going through this was way too much. But one thing I’m proud to say is – I have a very supportive and caring husband that takes care of me. I don’t think I can ever do this on my own. If you think its easy – you better think twice.

Insurance Benefits

Wholesale insurance can be quite expensive nowadays but good thing I have insurance benefits under my hubby. It feels good not paying full price for services now. Such as, dental, optical, massages and etc. No more paying full and expensive prices for these things. I remember last time I went to the dentist – it cost me about $350 for a cavity and cleaning. Is that crazy or what? Now I can put the extra money in pampering myself with facial and nails. Women are high maintenance eh? It’s just part of being a women. hahaha. I can’t wait for my next massage!

The Chinese Martyrs Catholic Church

Two days before the wedding – we had our rehearsal at the church. That hit me a bit because I wasn’t as organized with the program as I would like it to be. I started freaking out when things were missing and I am  new to the Catholic religion and don’t really know the steps of the ceremony. But after the rehearsal – everything was so much clearer to me. Phew~

I wasn’t expecting a large amount of people showing up to church that day because not everyone was Catholic. So I had quite a calm morning till I peak into the window and saw the HUGE amount of people that I didn’t expect. I started to freak out – lol. I gotta admit – I was pretty nervous walking down the aisle. But after the long walk – it was a relief because everyone was behind me – I didn’t have to look at them. HAHAHA.

Overall – it was a really meaningful day. Something that I wouldn’t forget. I’m blessed and grateful to find someone that loves and cares about me unconditionally. That plans our future together – that supports me from every decision I make. Almost three years being together – we’ve never gotten in any serious fight, never bitching or yelling at each other, never disrespected each other, and the list goes on. I’m proud to say – I’ve found someone that will walk the rest of this life long roads with me.